Having no confidence will never get you that far. Having too much confidence is equally bad. As parents, we would like our kids to be confident enough to face the world. I mean, we can’t be with them forever, right? They will have to face the real world on their own.
Yes, it’s true that there are some brilliant kids who are naturally self confident. If your kid isn’t one of them, you don’t have to worry. You can do something about his confidence. Here are some of the easiest and most effective tactics.
Do not compare your kids with other children. Let us remember that no two people are exactly alike. We are born to be different from one another.
What will happen if you constantly compare your kid to other children?
What will happen if you make him feel that he’s inferior to most people of his age?
Maybe you just want them to be inspired. I know your intentions are great but you are dealing with it the wrong way. If you keep on comparing them, they might think that they will NEVER be good for you. Compliment your kid’s achievements. A simple “I’m proud of you” can make a difference. Too much compliment isn’t good too. It has to be well – balanced.
Hone their strengths.
Your kids might be showing some hints about his passion and talents. Maybe he loves to paint. Or perhaps, he loves to fix things. Enroll your child to classes which might improve his skills. Or if you think these classes are expensive, you can just buy materials which he could use at home. You can purchase books and make a small area in your home where he could practice his passion.
Expose them to different kinds of people.
To be able to have that confidence, one must know handful of things. And what’s the best way to learn aside from experiencing things first hand? You will have to be with different people who have experienced different occurrences. The stories of other folks can make one smarter which can also make one, more confident.
Push them to accomplish things.
We also gain confidence if we accomplish things. Kids have short attention span. That’s acceptable. But you have to help them finish things that they have started. Let’s say your child is creating an artwork. He might get bored doing it after an hour or so. Don’t force him to finish it right away. Let him do other things. However, find the perfect timing to remind him that he needs to finish his masterpiece.
Explain to them the reality.
Of course, your child will experience failures. That is inevitable. They might cry or feel depressed. Allow them to feel such. But make sure that you will explain to them the realities of life. You have to be honest that there are some things which won’t go the way we wanted it to be. But that doesn’t mean it is the end of the world. Let them know that the most important thing is that they stand up after falling.
Parents have huge roles in developing their child’s confidence. Make sure that you will do your role well by following the above tips.
This article was originally posted at Healthy Family Matters by David Zielinski. He is an awesome writer who just published his first children’s book with moral lesson. This is about the Misadventures of Fink the Mink. This book will teach children better playground etiquette and social skills.